Friday, October 19, 2007

Upcoming 209A Forum - Recommended

False Allegations Restraining Order Forum

Defending Yourself in Court

Thursday November 8th from 7pm to 9:30pm

Marriot Courtyard Westboro at Route 495 and Route 20 intersection. One
block West of 495

Massachusetts courts have been issuing domestic abuse restraining orders (Ch. 209A) at the rate of about 40,000 per year. Judges give them out even if a person claims to have a vague fear. Once an order is issued, the defendant can lose his house, his children, his guns, his livelihood, and sometimes his life.

Something must be done to help those who are falsely accused. Of course, no one defends actual abuse. However, some lawyers say that as many as 95% of restraining orders are issued on false allegations, for reasons like breaking up with a boyfriend, or getting a leg up in a divorce. This is abuse of the purpose of these orders. The phrase used by lawyers is that they are “given out like candy”. At this
point, a mere claim of “Fear” is sufficient to issue these devastating restraining orders. Even though the Mass. Appeals Court has said this is NOT lawful most judges are ignoring the Appeal Court guidelines. The result is destroying parents and children’s lives.

Education and legislative efforts are underway to stop this unconstitutional law and prosecute false accusations to stop this destruction. False accusations and restraining orders have become a tool to tear apart families, and traumatize children, when no domestic violence has occurred and there is no proof that
they help anyone. In fact some studies show they cause far more problems than they prevent.

LEARN HOW TO FIGHT A FALSE 209A RESTRAINING ORDER IN COURT INCLUDING:
1. What to do when you suspect an order is on the way.
2. How to prepare for your day in court.
3. How you can defend yourself against false allegations and claims of fear.
4. How to get evidence that will win.
5. Skits on how to present your court case the WRONG way, and the RIGHT way.
6. Take home valuable and practical written information to use in Court, including key cases and legal arguments.

Who Should Attend: Anyone involved in a divorce proceeding, anyone under a restraining order now, anyone in a relationship going sour.

Call (617) SAD-DADS to reserve your seat. Just leave your name, phone and email address.

Requested Donation is $5-$10 to cover hotel and refreshment costs.

Sponsored by: www.FatherhoodCoalition.org and www.FathersUnite.org where much more information can be found on these and related divorce issues.

Sunday, October 07, 2007

Victims of false domestic violence reporting detail experiences

An eye opening article appears in The West Virginia Record detailing two studies into the abuse of restraining orders. The article is here, and I'll cite it extensively after the jump in case the article expires from the WVR website.

I'd like to connect it to the same problem in Massachusetts, but the Commonwealth has done it's very best to see that this doesn't happen. You see, a gentleman by the name of Steve Basile conducted a similar study, focusing on orders issued in the Gardner District Court in the year 1997. As Basile and others began to expand the scope of the original study, the Commonwealth and Jane Doe, Inc responded with a successful effort to restrict access to the orders and to the data, ensuring that no such study could ever be completed.

They don't want the truth getting out. Lies are their livelihood, and that hasn't changed under the reign of Martha Coakley.

The WVR article follows:

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Thursday, October 04, 2007

GET OFF THE BENCH

I was honored to be invited as a guest last Sunday on the internet radio show "Get Off The Bench!"

The topic was "Abuse of Domestic Violence Laws" and as you can imagine, my experience is a classic case study in that phenomenon.

Links to access the show are below the jump.

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Sunday, September 30, 2007

A Chronology

I haven't posted much about my case for a while because of the ongoing litigation and the tactical advantage of keeping things close to the vest. But enough of the litigation has concluded that I don't mind posting this chronology of the case that I prepared some time ago. So, without further ado, here's what's happened up until March of this year, after the jump.


Commonwealth v. McKay Chronology

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Wednesday, September 19, 2007

Jet.

Friday, September 14, 2007

The Way it Ought to Be.

Woman gets 3 years for perjury in custody case

HAMILTON — A Hamilton woman was sentenced to three years in prison Wednesday for committing perjury when she provided a sworn false statement on a form that resulted in the removal of her daughter from her father's care.

Stephanie Rodriguez, 28, the mother of seven children, attempted to circumvent the legal system in October when she did not disclose the truth about her criminal record. There was a past case involving her 12-year-old daughter in Butler County Juvenile Court.

Steve Suttle, the girl's father, had a brief relationship with Rodriguez, resulting in the birth of their daughter. Settle took full custody of his daughter when she was seven years old after Rodriguez was found to be neglecting the girl as well as her siblings during a Butler County Juvenile Court proceeding.

The father cared for his daughter until October 2006 when the girl was removed from his custody for two weeks based on false statements she made on a form used to grant a motion for emergency removal of the child.

During a two-day trial in August, defense attorney Jeremy Evans said Rodriguez was directed to Domestic Relations Court after talking with an attorney. He said she was trying to protect her daughter after hearing some information about her treatment in Suttle's custody. He said she was confused by the forms, but did not make false statements.

A jury deliberated just 60 minutes before finding Rodriguez guilty of the third-degree felony on Aug. 3. She faced a one- to five-year prison sentence.

Butler County Common Pleas Judge Michael Sage gave Rodriguez three years in prison, noting she did attempt to manipulate the legal system to get what she could not otherwise.

Assistant Butler County Prosecutor Jason Phillabaum said, "if someone lies under oath, perjury is the result."


Yes, lying under oath is perjury, a felony. Unless you're a female in Massachusetts, where it's still technically a felony, but you're encouraged by "law enforcement" to do it anyway. Dishonorable mention to my favorite felon Cynthia Whelahan of Sandwich, MA, perjury suborning Foxborough Police Officers Scott Austin, Edward McDonald, David Foscaldo and Scott Hodson along with their Chief Edward O'Leary who has given such crimes his full blessing and endorsement. Same goes for Asst. DA John Healy and his similarly perjury approving boss, Norfolk DA William Keating. Collectively and individually, each and every one of you are an utter disgrace.

UPDATE: From the American Coalition for Fathers and Children and RADAR.

Tell Your Representative,

Stop the False Accusations, Stop HRES 590!

"…there is no other court in the land where the penalty for perjury does not exist - you can lie repeatedly and not only NOT be punished for it, but actually be rewarded for it. There is no other court where you are presumed guilty until proven innocent. And for non-custodial parents...especially fathers...going through a divorce...and the never-ending litany of custody issues and all the rest that goes with it...it can feel like eternal damnation."


So says a father of two from New Jersey, who has undergone an ordeal in which he was verbally abused by a judge, physically accosted by police officers, criticized by child welfare officials, shown the door by school administrators, and even turned away by life-long friends.

Situations such as this will be perpetuated by House Resolution 590. It allows for the continued abuse of domestic violence laws, creating a dynamic in which allegations are made solely for the purpose of obtaining an advantage in litigation.


We’re asking you to contact your own Representative and politely ask him or her to say “NO” to HRES 590.

To locate your Representative, go to http://www.house.gov/. At the top, enter your Zip code and look up your Representative’s name, then go to the Representative’s website. Or call the Capitol Switchboard at 1-202-224-3121.

Then leave this message with the Representative's staff: “It’s time to stop the false allegations of domestic violence. Say ‘No’ to HRES 590!”

For further information on House Resolution 590 see http://www.mediaradar.org/docs/RADARanalysis-HRES590.pdf.

Monday, August 20, 2007

Family Preservation Festival

Here's my friend and colleague Bob Norton speaking yesterday at the Lincoln Memorial regarding family courts in general and in Massachusetts specifically. The video is in 2 parts.

Part 1



Part 2



Raise your hand if you recognize yourself in Bob's narrative.

Monday, May 21, 2007

If I've gotta wait, you've gotta wait.

I know, Cindy, I know. You want to know what's going on, and being the obsessive that you are, you've just got to keep checking. But if you're not going to bother showing up for the hearings, you're just going to have to keep checking until the time is right for me to divulge the details.

While we're waiting, this might be a good time for you to reflect on why you though it was such a good idea to commit felony after felony after felony. What was the attraction in trying to screw me over that made you so willing to expose yourself? Did you maybe have some friends people who encouraged you to lie, Boots?

Are you having fun yet? Has anyone told you that you ought to be ashamed of yourself? Your social worker, perhaps? Someone should, because it's not nice to hit people, commit perjury or be a control freak. You put a nice, convincing facade up, but at the end of the day, it turns out that you're an abusive and dishonest felon. And no one should have to put up with that, which is why I refused to do it. Boy, did you flip out! But, you did tell me the truth about what you do when you're lying, Shakes. Otherwise, I might have thought you were a total head case. I thought you were going to rattle right apart last time around. ;-) It's no fun being accused of a crime, is it? I don't imagine it helps any when you're guilty as hell.

BTW, nice job with the home ownership. Just brilliant, Cindy.

Friday, April 13, 2007

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A few laughs to pass the time while we muddle through continuances...





From the Demotivational Series at Despair, Inc. Try the Do it Yourself option. It's a fun feature.

Friday, February 02, 2007

A Conversation With State Senator Barrios

If you can call it that. It's actually a rather one sided communication.

Massachusetts State Senator Jarrett Barrios is the co-author (along with former Lt. Gov. Kerry Healy) of the new law requiring those convicted of 209A violations to be forced to wear a GPS ankle bracelet. He's started a blog of his own, and his first substantive entry trumpets this "achievement" and proposes several news ways to destroy the presumption of innocence.

I read his post, "He Should Leave, Not Her: Restoring Liberty and Equality to Battered Women" on January 24th, and I left the following comment:


Senator Barrios writes:

"Indeed, those who have been on the 'receiving end' of an order of protection might have some concerns about that process, but the process we discuss is the (hopefully) not-so-routine violation of those orders, and how to promote a more succesful compliance with them. The violations and the lack of proof as to their occurence point out the lack of police and court's power to enforce their own orders....and that's where GPS comes in."

Sir, I am a domestic violence victim, though the abuse at the hands of my partner pales in comparison to the abuse upon me at the hands of the Commonwealth. Your legislation would have put a GPS bracelet on me back in August 2004, though I am guilty of absolutely nothing other than being a male. Over two years later, when the Appeals Court reversed my conviction I suppose I would then have been able to take it off. Frankly, I think that 80 hours of Batterer's Intervention Program for a misdialed phone number was insult enough, and as it turns out the Appeals Court agrees with me. Please read the link appended to my name, [which leads here - ed] know that every word I wrote is true and that I have the documentation to prove the vast majority of it (which I will gladly provide on request.) Then, please tell me just a few things.

1. Where did I go wrong? What should I have done that I didn't do? What did I do that I shouldn't have? What would you have done in my situation?

2. Why is it that after spending an enormous amount of time, money and grief on fruitlessly prosecuting me for completely imaginary crimes, I can't seem to get a single human being in the employ of the Commonwealth to take any interest whatsoever in the string of obvious felonies that have been committed against me and against the Court, the supposed embodiment of our commitment to the rule of law?

3. Do you think I should still be the subject of a 209A order to this day? Do you think I should be GPS trackable? Why or why not?

4. What can be done, and what are you willing to do, to see that this or worse doesn't happen to anyone else? If it doesn't happen in Massachusetts today, it will happen tomorrow. My case is not unique.

I'm happy to see that you have this forum, and I'll be even happier if it engenders a substantive, productive discussion of the true and twin problems of both domestic violence and 209A abuse. No one should be subjected to either.



Apparently, my hope for a productive discussion will go unfulfilled as the good senator has clammed up. I'm nearly positive that he's read my comment, and this blog because on January 25, someone from a state.ma.us IP address, coming here from the link I left in his comments spent 25 minutes reading the post I linked to.

That was 8 days ago, yet I haven't had so much as a word in response to my questions, which while pointed, are perfectly valid. It would appear that I can add State Senator Jarrett Barrios to the list of "human being(s) in the employ of the Commonwealth (unwilling) to take any interest whatsoever in the string of obvious felonies that have been committed against me and against the Court, the supposed embodiment of our commitment to the rule of law?"

And yet he'd like to forgo the courts altogether and just let women decide to lock men up:
Pretrial Detention of Partners Assessed to be "Lethal": The lethality assessment can be used to the Commonwealth to assist in determining whether to seek pretrial detention of a defendant as provided for in current law. Lethality assessments provide judges with a vast array of information which might not otherwise be available for their consideration. Evaluation criteria would include, but not be limited to, the alleged batterer's family history, his criminal record, his attitude toward control within an intimate relationship, his attitude toward and previous use of violence in intimate relationships, his history of substance and alcohol abuse, his propensity for violence outside the home, his level of contrition for the attack, his level of denial of the seriousness of the assault, whether children are involved as witnesses or as victims, and other information relevant to the batterer's propensity to commit violence against his intimate partner. The information gathered in the lethality assessment would provide useful guidance in constructing a detention program, as well as coordinating safety measures with the victim's liaison.


I know you might be thinking that this doesn't say women can just decide to have a guy jailed because she feels like it. But if the Commonwealth handles that law the way it does 209A that is exactly what it means. I'm a guy who never laid a finger on Cynthia Whelahan, and yet I still, nearly 4 years later, have a standing judicial finding stating that "there is a substantial likelihood of violence", justifying the deprivation of my Second Amendment rights. Why? Because she, serial perjurer that she is, cries and shakes and begs for the ability to have me arrested at whim, and the People's Republic of Massachusetts cheerfully obliges.

Mass Insanity? You bet it is. "Equality" is a lie.

Saturday, January 27, 2007

Eulogy for my Father

When the duty of eulogizing my father fell to me, I couldn’t have been more honored to do it, and I was mildly amazed at the prospect of actually getting the last word in. But when I sat down to write this, it quickly set in how difficult a task it was to properly summarize his life and to convey how much he meant to so many people in just a few moments. Instead of trying to do that, I hope to tell you who he meant to be and I think that when all is said and done, we can agree that he succeeded, perhaps moreso than he ever realized.

My father was a man with a great sense of duty to his God and to his fellow man. He pursued that duty in a lot of ways, both great and small, but nowhere is it more evident than in his chosen vocation. A very intelligent man, with a strong education and all the options the world had to offer, he chose to spend his days teaching children, and in doing so he took upon himself one of the most difficult jobs in education: teaching remedial reading to some of the most disadvantaged kids in Rhode Island, something you certainly don’t decide to do for the money. Instead, he followed Jesus’ example. He welcomed the children unto him, and gave them one of the most important gifts a child ever gets, something these children were lacking: the power of the written word.

This created something of a conflict for him, as he also saw another duty that he needed to fulfill. This one was to Ginny, the love of his life and to their children. Ken came from humble beginnings, and he was determined to see that his family didn’t struggle as he did growing up, and that we would never want. In order for him to be able to do that, a Providence public school teacher’s salary wasn’t enough, so he spent decades going from school to his second job at the Narragansett Brewery. Now, back in the day they always had a keg tapped in the break room, so this wasn’t an entirely selfless act, though I know he’d have preferred to be home. Shortly after they took the tap out, Dad decided it was time to go into business for himself and Mac’s Tree Service was born. That would take up most of his free time for the next 20 years, and it also provided him a chance to teach his sons what slavery must have been like. Always a giver, that father of mine! All of this paid off as we were able to grow up in a beautiful home that became a touchstone not just for us, but for dozens of relatives, friends and neighbors. Be it pool parties or Christmas parties, the houses that Ken McKay envisioned, designed and built became places of love and laughter and the sites of countless joyful memories.

Before she passed away, my father promised my grandmother that his brother Gene, who was born with a number of challenges, would be taken care of, and my father saw to that flawlessly. It wasn’t enough for him to see that Gene’s physical needs were met, he also saw to it that Gene knew he was loved and to that end Uncle Gene was a frequent fixture in our house with my father driving to Providence to pick him up and again take him home, ensuring that he always knew he was part of a loving family…with plenty of beer.

My mother mentioned something to Dad shortly before he passed that is an ultimate tribute to a life well lived. Not only did they share 48 years of joyful devotion to each other, but they left absolutely nothing undone. Everything they hoped and dreamed of doing together, they did. This includes being blessed with seven grandchildren. Times spent with them were the happiest moments of his life. Ken McKay was a man fulfilled. He didn’t lose his life, he completed it.

I’d like to share a proclamation of faith with you. It was written by Cardinal John Henry Newman in 19th century Britain, but it could just as well have been written by my father. I found a copy of it among some of his most personal things, and I think that anyone who knows Ken McKay knows that this servant, this child of God, held these words in his heart.

“God has created me to do Him some definite service. He has committed some work to me which He has not committed to another. I have my mission - I may never know it in this life, but I shall be told it in the next. I am a link in a chain, a bond of connection between persons. He has not created me for naught. I shall do good. I shall do His work. I shall be an angel of peace, a preacher of truth in my own place while not intending it - if I do but keep His commandments.

“Therefore I will trust in Him. Whatever, wherever I am. I can never be thrown away. If I am in sickness, my sickness may serve Him; in perplexity, my perplexity may serve Him; if I am in sorrow, my sorrow may serve Him. He does nothing in vain. He knows what He is about. He may take away my friends. He may throw me among strangers. He may make me feel desolate, make my spirits sink, hide my future from me - still He knows what He is about.”

Today, my father knows what He is about. Today, Dad knows the answer to the question that tugs at every one of us. Today, Ken McKay knows why.

I’d like to leave you with something my father wrote. I think that this teacher to so many would be proud to have left us with this important lesson, and as it turns out, he’s getting the last word after all. He said:

“My Christ is a balanced teacher who would suggest that we lighten up, or as the kids say “chill out”. Life is not supposed to be somber. If peace is the tranquility of order, we must have time for laughter after the required tasks are done. Any time I put a smile on my neighbor’s face, I have, if only for a moment, lightened his load as Simon did with the cross. Laughter then, is an act of love.

It is said that every cigarette puts another nail in one’s casket. Perhaps then, it is fair to say that every laugh takes a nail out of that same casket. So maybe smokers should laugh a lot!

If I can’t laugh my way into Heaven, I may well be in serious trouble! Pray for me! And that’s no joke!”

I would be remiss if I didn’t make mention of my father’s 45 year relationship with St. Philip’s. My father loved this Church, and he loved this parish. That was evident to me from as far back as I can remember, as I heard his voice fill the building that this one replaced with prayerful song every Saturday at 5:00 mass. But it was when my daughter Alannah fell ill and we found ourselves confronted with incomprehensible pain and overwhelming fear that we truly came to know how much this parish loved him. I hadn’t been around much for more than twenty years, and my wife and daughter were virtually strangers to this community I had just returned to. The darkness that we found ourselves in was no match for the outpouring of love and support that this parish showed for us. My father called it “the most beautiful display of Christian love that has ever blessed our family” and I know that he appreciated that love as much as my family did. I also know that it was a direct reflection of the love that all of you had for him. We thank God for it, and we will be eternally grateful for it. So, thank you all from the bottom of my heart and my father’s.

Ken McKay leaves us with an enormous hole in our world, but with overflowing hearts. We should all live so faithfully and so well, and leave this Earth so loved.

God bless you, Dad. Enjoy your reward. You’ve earned it.

Friday, January 26, 2007

In Memoriam: Kenneth John McKay - 12/29/31 - 1/24/07

My teacher, my friend, my father. The man who gave me the blue in my eyes, the steel in my spine and my pesky conscience. He left us at 2:30 Wednesday morning. He died at home, surrounded by his wife and all of his children.

We should all live so well, and leave this Earth so well loved.

Services will be held at 11:00 AM on Saturday, January 27 at St. Philip's Church, Greenville, RI.

It just won't be the same without you, Dad.

More at the Providence Journal

Friday, January 19, 2007

Case dismissed



Of the two charges against me, I was acquitted of one and now the other has been dropped. The motions I filed have been continued until March 12. Things may be sort of quiet around here until those are dealt with.

Thank you to everyone who has held me up with your love and support throughout this debacle. To those who have been on the other side of the fence, well, that wasn't very bright, now was it? As you sow, so shall you reap.

Stay tuned for more. There's plenty to come.

Monday, January 01, 2007

Happy New Year!

My wish for 2007 is Truth, Justice and the American Way which I'm told involves equality for everyone in the eyes of the law. I'd really like to see that last part.

The blog has been on a hiatus because I've been reluctant to update it after coming to the realization that Commonwealth v. McKay still isn't quite dead. A status hearing has been scheduled for January 16th at Wrentham District Court. It should be enormously interesting, unless it's a complete waste of time.

Meanwhile, thanks to everyone who has stopped by to read the blog. Happy New Year! See you again soon!